SAFETY ALERT!!
Your abuser might be monitoring your activities on the on the computer so be smart.
Go to the library or a public place to make your search.
Domestic violence is a cycle. It does not take place in a moment. It goes through phases as shown by the diagram above. The purpose of the diagram is to help you to protect yourself and escape if possible.
Abusers are very insensitive and have no remorse. And since abuse can result in serious injury, even death. never take your chances, there is nothing like a second chance. It might be too late.
Domestic violence starts by build up tension in homes. This can happen from a number of reasons - financial crises, family pressure, stress from work etc. and it is carried out in a fit of rage. After the abuse, the perpetrator enters into a stage of remorse and tries to buy back the victim. The perpetrator does this through flattering words, giving of gift and money. Remember any abuser is a criminal and must be reported to the law enforcement agencies.
One thing you must take note of, is that anybody who claims to love you will not assault or abuse you in any circumstance. Your loved one is supposed to protect you. So do not let your abuser buy you back. If you think you love your abuser and cannot report him/her to the authorities, then seek counsel from your pastor or a social worker.
